Every man who has an innate love of boys is not necessarily qualified to be a boylover. The role of a boylover in a young boy’s life is one of immense responsibility, very much akin to that of a father. The boy’s best interest, and his future as well as present well being, must always be of paramount importance to the boylover.
Even in Ancient Greece, where boylove was the norm for several centuries, the boylover was expected to be a man of high moral character. Indeed, it brought shame on the boy and his family if his erastes (lover) was anything less.
Because a man-boy relationship involves two people who love one another, boylove encompasses the entire spectrum of human emotion. Therefore, the sexual aspect is a part of most man-boy relationships, even if that aspect is never consummated. It follows, then, that any boylove code of ethics will deal with the issue of sex in the relationship in a mature and responsible way.
The following code of ethics is an edited version of one found in the book, Sexual Experience Between Men and Boys, by Parker Rossman.
A boylover should do everything possible to protect his young friend from any harm, including exposure or embarrassment from arrest. This could mean abstaining from fully consensual sexual relations if such is illegal in the state or country where the boylover lives.
A boylover should protect his own reputation, so that his young friends will not be hurt or suffer as a result of association with him.
A boylover must be truthful and honest, and never lie to his young friends.
A boylover should not seek intimate contact with a boy, without knowing and understanding the boy’s interests and feelings.
Intimacy with a boy should never develop into a sexual relationship without the boy fully consenting and understanding the social, legal, and health implications of the relationship.
Boys should not be treated as sexual objects to be enjoyed at the whim of a boylover.
A boylover must respect the role and authority of a boy’s parents and not seek to undermine that role.
A boylover should not provide his young friends with alcohol or drugs, and certainly will never use drugs to weaken a boy’s sexual inhibitions, or “to get him into the mood” for sexual intimacy.
A boylover has the responsibility of encouraging and helping a boy to develop his normal heterosexual tendencies, unless the boy confirms that he has an innate homosexual orientation.
A boylover should guide and encourage his young friends to stay in school, avoid crime, and do all he can do to help them to develop a successful career.
A boylover should not “cruise” to pick up strange boys for sexual encounters, because that encourages boys to “hustle” or prostitute themselves.